Stop whining and get moving – If I could go back to meet my 20+ self I would definitely give a hard kick to myself in the ass and knock my head hard to remind myself how important my time is (or was)!
Seriously, I can really see a big difference between being 30+ (well I’m closing in to 40 soon, so it’s rather 35+?) and 20+ now.
I used to be too emotional when it comes to the matter of hearts. Now, I couldn’t care less.
I used to think the guy I was with was my whole world, I was so foolish to have done everything possible a girl could do just to retain the relationship. I sacrificed myself along the way in order to find that one person that would spend his life with me. Well right now, I couldn’t be bothered.
I learnt to put myself first and I learnt to keep my priorities right. I have also brought up higher standard in the traits I want in my partner. It’s my choice. And I really don’t mind ending up alone. I’ve survived the past 20 years on my own and I’m not afraid to go another 20 years on my own. Call me snobbish or whatever but that’s what I know and that’s what life has crafted me to become.
I used to be selfish and self centred too that I never cared what others think or how my actions could affect other people. But now I learn to put myself in their shoes and question myself on their actions, there’s always a reason behind every actions. I learn to control what I say or share with people around me. I have no power on their action but I sure can control mine.
I’m not saying I’m all perfect or what I did was right, I believe everyone goes through their own lessons in life. I’ve made a lot of decisions I am not proud of but I learn from them. I learn from each and every mistake I made. And I’m still learning.
So to all 20+ single girls out there, chillax, stop whining and get your ass moving! You have all your life to worry about your heart, keep that aside and focus on yourself. Focus on how you can improve yourself.
Learn to find what your true passion is, nurture that and become someone you can be proud of after 10 years. Surround yourself with all the positive minded people, be careful who you choose as friends. Learn to keep your enemies closer. Set your mind right.
It’s really okay to be alone, don’t be afraid. Believe me, independence is far better than all the heartaches you’ll go through and you’ll learn how to be a stronger person along the way.
And to quote my most favourite person on earth, Steve Jobs:
“If you haven’t found it yet, keep looking. Don’t settle. As with all matters of the heart, you’ll know when you find it. And, like any great relationship, it just gets better and better as the years roll on.”